“We were promised sufferings. They were part of the program. We were even told, 'Blessed are they that mourn,' and I accept it. I've got nothing that I hadn't bargained for. Of course it is different when the thing happens to oneself, not to others, and in reality, not imagination.”
― C.S. Lewis, A Grief Observed

There are a few things in life that we are promised without a doubt.  Things that no matter who  you are, what walk of life you are in; you will experience it.  One of those things is suffering.  That is simply a part of life; things we don’t want to admit to anyone.  We watch people going through heartache or trial and we tend think “I don’t know how I’d handle it if that was me” or even “Glad that’s not me”.  How many of us have thought the latter?

Occasionally we need to endure suffering and mourn over loss (no matter what that loss is) in order to appreciate what we have and what we will see happening in the future.  We don’t like admitting when something difficult comes our way.  We tend to want the suffering and hardships to happen to someone else or in a movie/TV show, not ourselves.    We need to endure those moments so that we can fully appreciate when something good happens, when we are blessed.  We cannot avoid suffering, heartaches, pain and any other bad thing we want to try and avoid.  It is all a part of this wonderful journey we call life.  How you address those moments and handle them are what truly matter.

We need to accept that we will endure these things.  Accept that we will walk the valley of death, depths of hell whatever you so choose to call it.  We will mourn over things, we will cry our hearts out, we will scream out in pain.  But we need to experience those things, we need to endure them.  It’s a horrible thing to admit and hard to admit, but we need to go through them and try our damnedest to not abandon hope.